In August 2007 I met my husband. He was an active duty soldier stationed at the base near my home town. We were married that December. I was ready to start TTC right away. Daniel wanted to wait and enjoy being by ourselves for a while.
Two months before our 1st anniversary Daniel got orders to Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. He would leave 20 days before our anniversary and be gone for a year. During the year that he was gone Daniel decided that he was ready for us to start our family when he got home. I stopped taking my pills right away and started researching “how to get pregnant”. He also found out that when he got back he would report to Ft. Sill, OK. I moved ahead of him to get everything settled before he got back. During that time I noticed that my periods weren’t regular. I told Daniel that I was worried that we would have problems conceiving. He tried to tell me that everything would be ok and I was probably being a worry wart.
8 months later I made an appointment with my PCM (general Dr.) for some other issues (I suffer from migraines and a torn rotator cuff) and mentioned that my periods still weren’t regular. She put a referral in to see the OB on post. When I saw the OB on post he told me that I was too young (21) to have fertility issues and that it was probably all in my head. But that he would put an order for an ultrasound and blood work to “clear my mind” That week I did my blood work and ultrasound. That following week the nurse called to tell me that everything had come back normal. If I felt that I needed anything else to make a follow up appointment. Several months later I went back to see my PCM and asked for a referral to on off post fertility specialist.
My new RE wanted me to get copies of my ultrasound and blood work that I had done on post. When I went to get my records I got nosey. I looked at the ultrasound report. In the report it said I had polycystic ovaries. I was furious! I had been lied to! When I went to my first appointment it took my new Dr. fifteen minutes to say that I had PCOS. I had my answer. I was upset and relieved at the same time.
That is messed up that they didn't tell you! Could've saved you some time and wonder on what was wrong!
ReplyDeleteThe medical field is interesting! Some doctors make a decision to call something they think is little as not big deal, however its a HUGE deal when you add up all the pieces. That especially makes me crazy because you went in specifically for that reason- you were concerned with having irregular cycles and not being able to conceive! All that time wasted! We'll I'm glad you put your foot down and persisted. Remember you know your body better than anyone and if you don't think somethings right - its usually not! Women have a "sixth" sense about when things are wrong. I had the same intuition. Good luck with your journey, I hope I can help if you need me :)
ReplyDeleteMilitary doctors dismiss a lot of things to "oh no ur too young for that" or "you are just too fat, lose weight and u'll be allllllll better" I had been going for 2 years for stomach problems and pain and when I got a job with insurance I saw a civilian doctor who had me in surgery within 2 months because I had a diseased gallbladder. I miss the free-ness of the millibars doctors and the fact that there's good RE's at the base down the street from me but I don't miss how they dismiss things. Sorry u had to go through all that time wasted. Hopefully u get better care now!
ReplyDelete@Mrs Red: its almost like they don't want to deal with it so they dismiss it. It's frustrating! I'm glad that you finally got some help!
ReplyDelete@Ashley: I really had a good PCM. It was the OB on post and his nurse that flat out lied to me. The same Dr told my friend that lost her baby at 19 weeks that things happen to get over it! That one got an ig complaint.
ReplyDelete@Shannon Ivy: thanks!
ReplyDeleteThat is so messed up! I am sorry you had to go through that =(
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