Monday, January 9, 2012

Question #5

5.Write a letter (one that you never have to send) to a fertile in your life. Did they hurt you? Support you? Tell them how you feel, all the things you can’t bring yourself to say in person.

Shannon:
Dear You,
First off, thank you for being practically the ONLY person who seems remotely interested in what I'm going through and treatments. However we have had a few rough patches throughout this process. When I was first diagnosed you said something that I was really painful. I can't remember if you were pregnant yet or not... But I had told you that it was a theory that PCOS was/is hereditary. There is no proof. But you had the audacity to ask me if I thought it was right of me to have kids if they might get this too. That stung. A lot.  I didn't tell my husband about it until a year or two later. But he was FURIOUS. There is truth to "think before you speak". And when you announced your pregnancy you didn't even think about who you were sending out a text to or what it said. I know you were excited, but sometimes a little consideration goes a long way.
-Me

Mrs Red:
Dear A,
As another person who is fertility challenged and who knows the heartache and grief that battling infertility causes, why would you think it's ok to PRAY to God that someone else would not have a baby? I can't imagine what made you think that was something nice to wish for. All I ever wanted growing up was sisters and a baby. I got married to your brother and thought I would finally have sisters but instead I have 3 backstabbing mean girls. I know you have apologized since you said it but it hurts me to know u thought that at one point. And then lets not forget that you never believe, acknowledge, or gave me any kind of sympathy on my miscarriage. As one who's gone through them herself should know the first one is hard! I told you about it and instead of offering a lending ear, you questioned me and told me I was lying. Thats hurtful an mean. I forgive you even though everyone else says I shouldn't but I can't live with feeling anger and hurt towards anyone. Forgiven people forgive people. I hope you realize how evil and hurtful that was to do to someone, especially your own brother.
-Me

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