One I've been asked about is if I thought about surrogacy.
Now in my instance I feel like that is too drastic at this point.
A) All we have done is a couple rounds of clomid
B) Finding someone I trust
C) I'd prefer a gestational carrier
Don't get me wrong. I thing surrogates and gestational carriers are angels on earth. Before all this started, way back in high school, I even thought about being a surrogate/carrier for certain friends (and still would) if they ever needed it. NEVER thought that one day my feet could be in those shoes!!
When it came to me maybe having to do that one day... I was hesitant at the thought. I want the joy at being pregnant, feeling the baby kick or respond to my or my husband's voice... But in the end, the result is a baby for me to have and keep. That is the big picture.
What are your thoughts on surrogates or gestational carriers?
I am very mix matched when it comes to surrogates. On one hand I've know several people that have been surrogates for other couples. One actually almost died during her pregnancy due to complications. She almost left her two children motherless. She said that she would never do it again. She said that it was the most shellfish thing that she has ever done.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand I'm with you. I would be thrilled if someone would make that sacrifice. I've had several people offer to carry a baby for me. But I feel like I would miss out on so much of a pregnancy that I'm lookin forward to! I want to feel a baby move and go through labor! I hope it doesn't come down to us having to make this decision.
I am not sure how I feel about it. Well actually I kind off agree with it being too drastic for me at this point as well. I mean, I literally just got diagnosed and haven't even got far into this process yet (from my own stupid fault...I couldn't get pregnant for 4 years, why the heck did I wait so long to be seen? Oh well you leave and you learn). Anyways, my best friend offered to be a surrogate for me if I ever really decided to do it. She had me in tears when she offered. We weren't best friends at the time but I seen our friendship growing. So if it came to the point, I would probably do it. However absolute last result because I agree with you Shannon. I want the joy of being pregnant, but the big picture is having a baby to have and keep.
ReplyDeleteI think it'd be very hard to watch someone else carry my child. The experience of pregnancy and the bond that is created between the baby and the mother during that time is part of what I want. I know I would have lots of jealous feelings, even though the end result would be holding MY child. It could create a lot of stress too, making sure the surrogate/carrier was doing everything you want her to do (and NOT doing the things you didn't want her to do). For me, I'd rather adopt if I couldn't carry my own child.
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