21.What is your favorite infertility-related quote? It doesn’t have to be explicitly related to infertility, but one that means something to your personal journey.
Shannon:
"Dreams are not something to wait for, they are something to work for."
"It rains hardest on those who deserve the sun."
"Everything will be okay in the end; if it's not ok, it's not the end."
"It's hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; but it's even harder to give up when you know it's everything you want."
"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."
Mrs Red:
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6, 7 NIV)
Monday, January 30, 2012
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Question #20
20.Have you ever bonded with someone IRL (In Real Life) over infertility, even just for a few minutes? It could be a family member, friend, neighbor, or even the clerk at the grocery store who noticed your OPK and vitamin purchase. Tell the story.
Shannon:
Mine was actually recently. In November I went to donate blood (I try to do this regularly). Normally I have no problem and go in right away. The tech was new to the location and we were talking and it ended up being that my iron was too low. She asked if I was on my period and I informed her that I don't get my period and she high-fived me and said it's awesome! And I went, "well..." and told her my story. At one point she cried with me. She also closed the door, hugged me, and prayed for me. I won't lie, that was kinda awkward, especially because I was in a comfortable position for that long of a period. But it was still touching. She gave me her number and told me to call her any day, any time.
Mrs Red:
At my last real job there was a lady who got moved right next to me and she had pictures of twins on her desk. She had just come back from maternity leave and she started talking to me one day. She was asking me how long i'd been married, which is almost always followed by do u have kids. But she didn't ask that right away. She moved on to other questions. After a few days sitting by her I told her that her sons were gorgeous. And she told me they were her miracle babies. She said her and her husband tried for 13 years and that her sister ended up being her surrogate. I was floored. This lady seemed to have everything in life and was the happiest faith filled person I had ever met and she struggled with fertility. Eventually I opened up to her And told her our struggles and at the time we had been trying for 2 1/2 years. She offered me tons of comfort and compassion. She told me what rE she used and suggested I start with one sooner rather than later. She also agreed that a support group and an Re that treats the whole mind and body is best for what i was going through. I didn't go at the time only because my insurance wouldn't cover it and I didn't think I would need an RE. She was a very sweet lady and I loved hearing her talk about her sons. She was a friend that God sent me for a season. We lost touch but I thank God I met her.
Shannon:
Mine was actually recently. In November I went to donate blood (I try to do this regularly). Normally I have no problem and go in right away. The tech was new to the location and we were talking and it ended up being that my iron was too low. She asked if I was on my period and I informed her that I don't get my period and she high-fived me and said it's awesome! And I went, "well..." and told her my story. At one point she cried with me. She also closed the door, hugged me, and prayed for me. I won't lie, that was kinda awkward, especially because I was in a comfortable position for that long of a period. But it was still touching. She gave me her number and told me to call her any day, any time.
Mrs Red:
At my last real job there was a lady who got moved right next to me and she had pictures of twins on her desk. She had just come back from maternity leave and she started talking to me one day. She was asking me how long i'd been married, which is almost always followed by do u have kids. But she didn't ask that right away. She moved on to other questions. After a few days sitting by her I told her that her sons were gorgeous. And she told me they were her miracle babies. She said her and her husband tried for 13 years and that her sister ended up being her surrogate. I was floored. This lady seemed to have everything in life and was the happiest faith filled person I had ever met and she struggled with fertility. Eventually I opened up to her And told her our struggles and at the time we had been trying for 2 1/2 years. She offered me tons of comfort and compassion. She told me what rE she used and suggested I start with one sooner rather than later. She also agreed that a support group and an Re that treats the whole mind and body is best for what i was going through. I didn't go at the time only because my insurance wouldn't cover it and I didn't think I would need an RE. She was a very sweet lady and I loved hearing her talk about her sons. She was a friend that God sent me for a season. We lost touch but I thank God I met her.
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Question #19
19.What tv show/movie/commercial/print ad has bothered you the most since you began trying to conceive? If possible, post it here. Tell us why it bothered you so much.
Pampers Commercial
Ashley:
Well there was one earlier this year but I cannot remember the name of it - and I've been trying to remember for a couple days now, I will post if I remember! On the flip side there have actually been a couple that I'm excited to watch Private Practice is my favorite because it shows the shots, emotions, steps through infertility, etc.
Shannon:
I actually don't end up watching a lot of tv. We are usually at work or in school so when we do watch our shows we fast forward through the commercials... I know I LOVE the new pampers one:::Pampers Commercial
Mrs Red:
I actually can't think of any tv stuff that has offended me... I know there has been but I tend to forget about it because it isn't real and most people don't think when they come up with this stuff lolAshley:
Well there was one earlier this year but I cannot remember the name of it - and I've been trying to remember for a couple days now, I will post if I remember! On the flip side there have actually been a couple that I'm excited to watch Private Practice is my favorite because it shows the shots, emotions, steps through infertility, etc.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Question #18
18.Tell us about a pre-ttc pregnancy “scare.” With your current partner, or with an ex.
Mrs Red:
I actually never had any. I wasn't a wild child... Even though my mom thought I was -__- that was uncomfortable. Just turned out to be the moment my birth control stopped regulating my periods and the start of a lot of problems
Ashley:
Well I'd have to say it was with my ex. We'd been together for 8 years (junior high sweethearts)and were 6 months away from getting married. I was very nauseous and vomiting for 2 days in the morning and I never throw up. I was so freaking out that I was pregnant! I bought a test and was afraid to take it! Ended up taking it the next morning and it was a BFN! Fewww!
(FYI - I ended up splitting up with him a month later.....and to my surprise as fate would have it I found my husband 4 months later and we are still really good friends with my ex)
Shannon:
LoL, I didn't have any of these either!!!Mrs Red:
I actually never had any. I wasn't a wild child... Even though my mom thought I was -__- that was uncomfortable. Just turned out to be the moment my birth control stopped regulating my periods and the start of a lot of problems
Ashley:
Well I'd have to say it was with my ex. We'd been together for 8 years (junior high sweethearts)and were 6 months away from getting married. I was very nauseous and vomiting for 2 days in the morning and I never throw up. I was so freaking out that I was pregnant! I bought a test and was afraid to take it! Ended up taking it the next morning and it was a BFN! Fewww!
(FYI - I ended up splitting up with him a month later.....and to my surprise as fate would have it I found my husband 4 months later and we are still really good friends with my ex)
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
My Plan......
Ashley:
Well, we attempted our 3rd IUI cycle this past month. Unfortunately the IUI was cancelled because I had one growing follicle that stopped growing. My RE feels IVF is a much better option for us and highly recommends it. My DH and my game plan was to do 3 IUIs and then move onto IVF. So our first two IUIs were unsuccessful and our third was cancelled, so now we are moving on to IVF. I did some price searching and RE research and also talked to some of the ladies on my support group (Daily Strength) and found a facility that has a great program 100% refundable if no successful pregnancy after 3 fresh and unlimited frozen cycle attempts, it also guarantees 30 days of life or your money back. We can stop at any point and walk away and get our money back. This program cost also includes meds which most don't and can add additional costs to the IVF itself this is just one big package. I have to talk to the facility (RMIA) some time this week to get all my questions answered and then we'll be able to make our final decision if we are going with them or not. I feel really good about this. I am happy if for some reason this doesn't work we get our money back and then can use it towards adoption instead of taking out loan after loan and having financial stress! I'm really excited and optimistic that IVF will work for us!
Well, we attempted our 3rd IUI cycle this past month. Unfortunately the IUI was cancelled because I had one growing follicle that stopped growing. My RE feels IVF is a much better option for us and highly recommends it. My DH and my game plan was to do 3 IUIs and then move onto IVF. So our first two IUIs were unsuccessful and our third was cancelled, so now we are moving on to IVF. I did some price searching and RE research and also talked to some of the ladies on my support group (Daily Strength) and found a facility that has a great program 100% refundable if no successful pregnancy after 3 fresh and unlimited frozen cycle attempts, it also guarantees 30 days of life or your money back. We can stop at any point and walk away and get our money back. This program cost also includes meds which most don't and can add additional costs to the IVF itself this is just one big package. I have to talk to the facility (RMIA) some time this week to get all my questions answered and then we'll be able to make our final decision if we are going with them or not. I feel really good about this. I am happy if for some reason this doesn't work we get our money back and then can use it towards adoption instead of taking out loan after loan and having financial stress! I'm really excited and optimistic that IVF will work for us!
Question #17
17.Tell us your funniest Clomid/Femara/Injectibles mood-swing story. If you don’t have one, tell us your funniest general infertility drug story.
Shannon:
I don't really have anything, of either! At least none I can remember!
Mrs Red:
That would have to be progesterone injectables... So after my iui's my husband would give me the shots of progesterone. We would do them when he got home from work but I would prepare them before he got home. They give you 2 type of needles from the pharmacy, one to pull the medicine out with and one to inject it with. So the first week of shots we did this without a hitch. It was weird at first but not bad. The second week I had to get a refill. I got confused about which needles to use so I accidentally used the one to inject with to pull the medicine out and the one for pulling the meds out to inject. I didn't notice until the second day and I was thinking "hmmm it's hard to pull this out, it wasn't tho hard before" and then I looked at my sharps container and realized the needle color was different on most of the needles... I called my hubby over and told him I found the error of my ways and he laughed and said "maybe that's why the needle bounced off your butt yesterday when I tried to inject it!" lol the injection site hurt a lot more with the wrong needle... Pay attention ladies! LoL
Ashley:
Well, my funniest story would be my first time taking Femara. I didn't have too bad of side affects on clomid but my first time on Femara I got really dizzy and felt like I was drunk. I just laid down in bed and my puppy got sick and vomited on the carpet beside me. My husband was outside so I flew out of bed and started cleaning it up, I was putting the cleaner on the carpet and cleaning up the mess...the motion from rubbing/cleaning the carpet made my dizziness x 10 worse I couldn't even see straight! My husband came in the bedroom and asked what I was doing when I tried to stand up I just fell right back down! He ended up getting me into bed and he finished cleaning up the mess. I was still worried about how our puppy was feeling!
Shannon:
I don't really have anything, of either! At least none I can remember!
Mrs Red:
That would have to be progesterone injectables... So after my iui's my husband would give me the shots of progesterone. We would do them when he got home from work but I would prepare them before he got home. They give you 2 type of needles from the pharmacy, one to pull the medicine out with and one to inject it with. So the first week of shots we did this without a hitch. It was weird at first but not bad. The second week I had to get a refill. I got confused about which needles to use so I accidentally used the one to inject with to pull the medicine out and the one for pulling the meds out to inject. I didn't notice until the second day and I was thinking "hmmm it's hard to pull this out, it wasn't tho hard before" and then I looked at my sharps container and realized the needle color was different on most of the needles... I called my hubby over and told him I found the error of my ways and he laughed and said "maybe that's why the needle bounced off your butt yesterday when I tried to inject it!" lol the injection site hurt a lot more with the wrong needle... Pay attention ladies! LoL
Ashley:
Well, my funniest story would be my first time taking Femara. I didn't have too bad of side affects on clomid but my first time on Femara I got really dizzy and felt like I was drunk. I just laid down in bed and my puppy got sick and vomited on the carpet beside me. My husband was outside so I flew out of bed and started cleaning it up, I was putting the cleaner on the carpet and cleaning up the mess...the motion from rubbing/cleaning the carpet made my dizziness x 10 worse I couldn't even see straight! My husband came in the bedroom and asked what I was doing when I tried to stand up I just fell right back down! He ended up getting me into bed and he finished cleaning up the mess. I was still worried about how our puppy was feeling!
Monday, January 23, 2012
Question #16
16.If you are not yet a parent: What are you MOST looking forward to about parenthood? If you are a parent: What is the most surprising thing about being a parent? If you have taken the childfree path: What is the most surprising part of living childfree after infertility?
Not yet a parent-everything! Watching my baby develop in their own way, watching them learn and discover everything, teaching them how to be good people and hoping we do a good job. First day of school, bfs/gf's, every milestone, crafts from Sunday school and regular school, being needed when they're sick, seeing my husband in their eyes, watching him interact with them and them be OURS. Finally, when people tell me how cute my kids are, I can smile proudly and say thanks for real.
Ashley:
Not yet a parent. I agree with Shannon & Steph - the look on my husbands face -knowing our love created this little being and having unconditional love. I'm also looking forward to interacting as a family, teaching them things, learning things, everything :) I just can't wait!!!!!!
Shannon:
Not yet parent: The smile on my husband's face, the unconditional love of something we created together, watching him/her grow and develop and form their own personalities, etc. :o)
Mrs Red:
Not yet a parent-everything! Watching my baby develop in their own way, watching them learn and discover everything, teaching them how to be good people and hoping we do a good job. First day of school, bfs/gf's, every milestone, crafts from Sunday school and regular school, being needed when they're sick, seeing my husband in their eyes, watching him interact with them and them be OURS. Finally, when people tell me how cute my kids are, I can smile proudly and say thanks for real.
Ashley:
Not yet a parent. I agree with Shannon & Steph - the look on my husbands face -knowing our love created this little being and having unconditional love. I'm also looking forward to interacting as a family, teaching them things, learning things, everything :) I just can't wait!!!!!!
Saturday, January 21, 2012
That time of the month... Err... Year? Quarter?
My periods have never been monthly except for the years I was on birth control. never ever have I had a natural monthly cycle. I got close after my drilling surgery, it was every 60 days for 3-4 cycles. But other than that, NOTHING... Until December. I had one Nov 27 and then Dec 25th, it came on its own and close enough to 28 days for me! I was so excited!!! We have been juicing so I figured it was regulating my hormones. So I was hoping maybe I could get pregnant this month?!!!! Well guess who showed up today? Making this cycle 31 days :-( I was so tempted all week to take a hpt in wishful thinking... I'm glad I was too scared too because I woulda just shelled up... But aunt flo is just as bad as a bfn to me... At least it's month 2 of monthly... Novembers cycle was started with depo provera and then we have been juicing raw organic fruits and veggies ever since, except the beginning of this cycle because we took a week break which I think is what threw the days off. I am really hoping this is the month, next cycle should start around the 18th, my bday.... So a bfp would be the best bday present ever... EVER
-Mrs Red
-Mrs Red
Question #15
15.If you are not yet pregnant/a parent: What are you MOST and LEAST looking forward to after that first beta? If you are already pregnant/a parent: What was the most pleasant/unpleasant thing about pregnancy? If you have taken the childfree path: What pregnancy symptom are you happy to have avoided, and which one do you wish you’d experienced?
LEAST: I guess just worrying if I'll be a good mom :-)
Ashley:
Not yet a parent -
MOST: the whole experience of pregnancy, baby growing, birth, the bonding and holding the little one in my arms.
LEAST: the paranoia loosing the baby and if everything is ok - I don't want to be a crazy paranoid pregnant lady but I feel like I will be because of everything we've done to get pregnant.
Shannon:
Not yet a parent - MOST: feeling the baby grow inside me; LEAST: nausea.
Mrs Red:
not yet a parent- MOST: everything! Including the nauseaLEAST: I guess just worrying if I'll be a good mom :-)
Ashley:
Not yet a parent -
MOST: the whole experience of pregnancy, baby growing, birth, the bonding and holding the little one in my arms.
LEAST: the paranoia loosing the baby and if everything is ok - I don't want to be a crazy paranoid pregnant lady but I feel like I will be because of everything we've done to get pregnant.
Question #14
14.If a very observant stranger were to walk into your house, what clues could lead them to believe that you have struggled with infertility?
Ashley:
Medication bottles, shots in the refrigerator, sharps container and PCOS books. I don't have PCOS books out on display, I keep the hidden away or in a book bag but I do have the sharps container by the garbage and my medication bottles are on the bathroom counter on days when I take them so I don't forget.
Shannon:
I don't think there is really anything... Other than the fact that we don't have any baby stuff but they could probably think that we just aren't "there" yet. I really can't think of anything.
Mrs Red:
Same as Shannon, we don't really have any baby stuff anywhere so I don't see what clues there would be. We have a bunch of baby pictures of my nieces and nephews but other than that people wouldn't know. Work however, I have a small prayer board that screams "I WANT A BABY BUT IM HAVING SOME TROUBLE!" haha but I have it to where only I can see it or if ur looking reeeeally hard hahaAshley:
Medication bottles, shots in the refrigerator, sharps container and PCOS books. I don't have PCOS books out on display, I keep the hidden away or in a book bag but I do have the sharps container by the garbage and my medication bottles are on the bathroom counter on days when I take them so I don't forget.
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